Oh.... The Weather Outside Is Frightful....

I can't think of worse way to start a horrible day than it being shitty outside on your way to the dentist... possibly getting a ticket on the way could add to it.... or.... getting up to make an 8:30 dentist appointment, heading out into the shitty weather and then finding out that your appointment is tomorrow... it's like Groundhog Day... all to be repeated tomorrow morning.  The sad thing is that I had a reminder set for tomorrow already, I just didn't look at it.  All the more time to go over to the other house and work... oh, there it is... it just got worse.

I thought I would possibly try out a new segment called "Word Up".  In this segment, I would pick a few words that were possibly tied together and would provide a definition... to clarify or build word power.  Today's words are:

1. FRIEND:  The cooperative and supportive relationship between two people. A relationship which involves mutual knowledge, trust, esteem, affection, support, selflessness and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other.

2. EGOCENTRISM:  Derived from the Greek and Latin, 'ego', meaning "I", "me" or "self", a person having this trait thinks only of themselves, often times acting without the thought of consequence to their actions of self importance, self benevolence, self centeredness, and self benefit.  Often related to the term 'narcissism' and having the following characteristics: (from a medical journal)

...Shamelessness - Shame is the feeling that lurks beneath all unhealthy narcissism, and the inability to process shame in healthy ways.


...Magical thinking - Narcissists see themselves as perfect using distortion and illusion known as magical thinking. They also use projection to dump shame onto others.


...Arrogance - If a narcissist is feeling deflated, s/he can reinflate him/herself by diminishing, debasing or degrading somebody else.


...Envy - If the narcissist's need to secure a sense of superiority meets an obstacle because of somebody else, s/he neutralises it using contempt to minimise the other person's ability


...Entitlement - Narcissists hold unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable treatment and automatic compliance because they consider themselves uniquely special. Any failure to comply will be considered an attack on their superiority and the perpetrator is considered to be an "awkward" or "difficult" person. Defiance of their will is a narcissistic injury that can trigger narcissistic rage.


...Exploitation - can take many forms but always involves the using of others without regards for their feelings or interests. Often the other is in a subservient position where resistance would be difficult or even impossible. Sometimes the subservience is not so much real as assumed.


...Bad Boundaries - narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that others are separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet their needs or may as well not exist at all. Those who provide narcissistic supply to the narcissist will be treated as if they are part of the narcissist and be expected to live up to those expectations. In the mind of a narcissist, there is no boundary between self and other.


3. BETRAYAL:  The breaking or violation of a presumptive social contract, trust, or confidence that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals.

4. CONSEQUENCE:  A reaction caused by an action.  i.e.  Someone that I thought was my FRIEND let his EGOCENTRISM get in the way which led to a BETRAYAL, and the CONSEQUENCE was a destruction of a 15-year friendship.